Gods group thoughts for 11/27/2012 “My Suggestion for a Successful Marriage”

“Our Daily Bread”   

http://odb.org/2012/11/27/more-and-more/

The Daily Devotions of Greg Laurie                                  

http://www.harvest.org/devotional/daily-devotions/home.ht

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.  (NKJV)

This day of the year, November 27th…is a special day for my wife Madeline and me…  Today my wife and I celebrate our 41st wedding anniversary…  I wrote last year on our 40th anniversary, about a small piece of scripture that totally changed my outlook on how I view my wife…  Here is the link for those who look at their wives as anything less than perfect…and a true gift from God…  https://godsmanforever.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=484&action=edit

With so many marriages failing in today’s society…I thought I would share my perspective on what I believe any married couple could do, to strengthen their relationship…

This opening scripture is truly an impossibility (in my humble opinion), for anyone to 100% accomplish day in and day out…  I know it is an impossibility in my own life…  Yes, the Christian is called to love everyone around them, no matter what… Jesus teaches us this, in…Matthew 5:43-44“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,”  (NKJV)

But can you honestly say that there is never anything negative or demeaning that comes out of your mouth ??  The Apostle James tells us how deadly our tongue is, in chapter 3 from his Book of James…  Here is the link for this short chapter… http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=jam3&version=NKJV

Here is the key scripture, written by the Apostle James, in…James 3:8-10But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. 10 Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.  (NKJV)

Man in his own strength, can in no way love his enemy; or have any chance of controlling most of what comes out of his mouth… Man’s pride won’t allow someone to ridicule him, or say unkind words to him, without his lashing back with possibly even harsher, more hurting words…  It is only by the controlling power of the Holy Spirit, that the Christian will be able to respond with love to someone screaming in their face…

Do I find it easy to respond to harsh words with love ??  Positively not !!   …But, biting my tongue with humility…and doing my very best to put my wife and what she wants ahead of what I want…I believe is definitely part of the reason my wife and I don’t argue all that much in recent years…  That’s not to say we never disagree about things…  But all Christian’s are called to overlook opportunities to respond with negative words, when their spouse says something they could easily respond to in a negative tone…

This would be a good opportunity to again quote a piece of scripture my dear Grandmother used to tell my 2 sisters and me, when she saw us arguing from our very early years…Proverbs 15:1A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.  (KJV)   …This scripture was written by the wise Solomon…  But my Grandmother always did her best to live a life that she believed would be pleasing to the Lord…

When anyone responds to you with harsh words…I suggest that you “think Jesus”, as I call it… What would Jesus say or do ??     And remember that if you are a Christian, God has given you grace, where you did not deserve His grace or His mercy…  When you respond to harsh words with grace, instead of with a negative response…you are indeed showing those around you that the light of Christ is present in your life… 

And when your spouse does something that you could easily respond to with unkind remarks…just ignore it, and realize that you’re not perfect yourself…  We all make mistakes…  But as Christians, we are called to lift up one another; instead of tearing down or ridiculing those we love… If both people in a relationship do their best to put the other person’s wants and needs ahead or their own…I believe there would be a much lower rate of divorce in today’s “dog eat dog” world…

Heavenly Father, I thank You for Your gift of grace through faith alone in Jesus Christ…Ephesians 2:8-9…  Help all of Your children Lord, to draw upon the strength of the Holy Spirit with-in them…by “thinking Jesus”, and responding to their spouses (if they are married), or to anyone around them…with words that will only edify (build up) those they are speaking with… Help us Lord, as Christians trying to please You, to overlook the petty imperfections of those we love…realizing that we ourselves have faults that could easily be exposed… Help us Lord, to love all of those around us, as You love us…in Jesus’ most precious name and for His sake…Amen…

written by bruce

Happy 41st anniversary Madeline !!

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