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Written by Victor Uyanwane for http://gracemusing.com
Original post @ http://gracemusing.com/2016/02/12/5-simple-reasons-you-should-not-be-desperate-for-love/
Published on February 12, 2016
5 SIMPLE REASONS YOU SHOULD NOT BE DESPERATE FOR LOVE
written by Victor Uyanwanne
Everyone feels the need to be loved.
While it is normal for you to feel the need to be loved, it will become unhealthy if your craving to be loved becomes too excessive.
You don’t have to be desperate for love. You don’t force a good relationship to happen.
You will do ‘crazy’ things if you find yourself being desperate for love.
Saint Valentine’s Day celebration is around the corner. Many people will do crazy things that show they are desperately searching for love.
They will eat out in an exclusive restaurant they could not ordinarily afford. A classic case of eat now and regret later.
They will spend the money they don’t have in buying expensive gifts they don’t need – all in a bid to be ‘accepted’. That’s phony; sooner or later, they will be busted.
They will lower their morals in a bid to get in the clique. But then they will soon realise how lonely they are.
They will engage in unlawful activities they will come to feel bad about thereafter. Such was the experience of Lisa (not her name).
Tipsy during a house party in one of her friend’s house during last year’s Valentine’s celebration, Lisa was led upstairs into a small room where a guy she barely met at the party slept with her. When she came to her full senses afterward, Lisa confessed, “I would never have done ‘it’ with that guy if I was sober.”
You need not be caught in the rut. Being desperate for love is not a guarantee that you will find it.
Here are five simple reasons you should not be desperate for love:
It is a mark of low self-esteem. Being desperate for love shows that your self-esteem is not at the best level it can be. You need to work on it.
It makes you more vulnerable. Selfish people may take advantage of you if they see that you are desperately looking for love. And when the coast is clear, you will be the one left stranded.
You will turn off genuine people and attract only desperate ones like you. Genuine people look for value. If they see that you are desperate for love, they may conclude that you are probably not worth much and so they will look elsewhere.
It may leave you heartbroken at the end. Love is elusive to those who desperately search for it. When you are desperate about love, heartbreak is inevitable. So why don’t you take it patiently?
It shows you are not trusting God enough to meet your love needs. God is the best matchmaker I have ever known. But He doesn’t force anyone on us. No single person has all it takes to meet all your love needs. That’s why you need God.
What is the better way to go about it?
It is a huge mistake to think that you will be able to capture the object of your affection by frantically putting yourself out there. Instead of desperately hunting for the right person, you can concentrate on being the right person. When you become the right person of value, the right person of value will come along.
Is it achievable? I would say, Yes! This is how.
Build up your self-esteem a little more. You are worth more than you think. Your self-esteem will plummet if you think there is something wrong with you. Have a positive outlook about you. God made you specially and wired you with quality gifts and talents.
Use your time, your talent and your treasure productively. When you are seen using your endowments to add value to other people’s life, the right person will notice you.
Add authentic value to your face: smile genuinely. Be cheerful. “I would have love to talk to you, but your hard face puts me off,” a young man once said to a young lady.
Receive the love of God into your heart. This will make it easier for you to love yourself and also love others. Without the love of God in your heart, your love equation will never be balanced.