Gods group thoughts for 4/20/2013 “How to be 100% Right; and Yet Totally Wrong”

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Ephesians 5:28-29So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.  (NKJV)

The secret to a successful marriage will come from a relationship between the man and the woman that is based on sacrificial love, just like Christ has for His church…  When both the man and the woman are Christians in God’s eyes, they will each have the Holy Spirit living with-in them, to help them live in harmony, the way God designed the perfect union between a man and a woman…

The Apostle Paul continues on from the opening scripture, with this scripture, in…Ephesians 5:30-31For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become oneflesh.”  (NKJV)

Successful marriages will result from a relationship that developers over time; and that is based on mutual love, respect, and trust in each other…  I have been married almost 42 years; and I am blessed to have a wife that still loves me through the good times and the bad…  Has married life always been easy ??  Heck no !!  But both of us believe in the wedding vowels that we made…till death do us part !!

Today, I am concentrating my thoughts on the young unmarried generation (or divorced…and looking for the right future spouse this time around)…  Any Christian who is of an age, where the next date could become a future spouse…should be looking past just going out to have a good time… 

The Bible is clear, that Christians should never marry unbelievers… God gives us these instructions, because He knows what is best for His children…  The Apostle Paul pens this, in…2 Corinthians 6:14-15Do not be unequallyyoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever(NKJV)

I believe so many marriages are failing today, because one or both of the people in the marriage was not a Christian…  Because of this, one or both of them does not have the Holy Spirit to help guide them in a way that will produce harmony between the married couple…  I have spoken to more than one divorced Christian, who admits it was a mistake marrying a non-Christian; and will definitely not make the same mistake twice…

But even if both people in a marriage are Christians, it doesn’t mean they can live in harmony…unless at least one of them is walking in the Spirit, as a Spirit filled Christian…  Harmony in a marriage is at its best, when both are Christians that are living by Jesus’ 2 most important commandments, which Jesus gives us, in…

Matthew 22:36-40Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 On these two commandments hangall the Law and the Prophets.”  (NKJV)

When both Christians are Spirit filled…they should always be placing the wants and needs of their spouse, ahead of themselves…  And even if one spouse is right, in a discussion…they should never use this fact in a negative way…  I have only truly come to understand this concept the last few years, where you can be 100% right, but absolutely wrong…if you respond in a way that gloats or puts down your spouse…

It’s our natural born tendency, to want to be right…and to be able to tell someone with pride, this we are indeed right…  But to be right, and then to be able to humbly keep this bottled up inside…is not only hard…it’s almost impossible, in our own weak human strength…  This is where the power of the Holy Spirit comes into play…  When we are being totally controlled by the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 5:18-20)…He steps in, and will give us the power we need, to always respond with words (or without words), that will keep harmony in the marriage…

I know in past years, it was so easy to criticize my wife…  A jab here…an unkind word there…and all of a sudden there are harsh words leading to an argument…  Think about it !! Do you like to be criticized when you are wrong ??  Heck no !!  It’s bad enough that you were wrong to begin with…  But to have a spouse tell you about it, doesn’t help the situation, or produce harmony in the marriage… 

Jesus tells us we should be able to love even our enemy, in…Matthew 5:43-44…  “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,”  (NKJV)

When your spouse says or does something that would normally arouse anger in you…“think Jesus”, as I call it…  Take a deep breath…and don’t respond with unkind words in retaliation…   Again…this is just about impossible, without the power of the Holy Spirit helping you hold your tongue…  (Read…James 3:1-12)   But this is the key to living in harmony with your spouse…even a spouse that is not Spirit filled…

I am reminded about some wise words penned by Solomon, that my dear Grandmother always told my 2 sisters and I…when she caught us in an argument with each other…Proverbs 15:1A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.  (NKJV)   My godly Grandmother was filled with wisdom, which I now think back on…and wish I had learned to live by, at an earlier age…

My hope is that these words today will make some sense to anyone old enough to date, that could lead to marriage…  And what better place to meet your future spouse, that a church… If you are not now attending a church, I would highly recommend doing so…  I know you will benefit the most by going to a Bible believing, Bible teaching church… God tells us through His Word, how to best live our lives in a way to please Him…  I spent a day writing about what I believe makes up “The Right Church”…  I base this writing on what I have seen, and experienced in my own life…over the last 11+ years of attending a Bible teaching and preaching church…

Here is a link to my suggestions on what makes up a good choice in churches for Christian’s, and those who want to become a Christian in God’s eyes…   https://godsmanforever.wordpress.com/2013/01/05/gods-group-thoughts-for-1052013-the-right-church/

Heavenly Father, I pray that Your Word would open the eyes of those interested in finding a spouse…as well as those who are already husband and wife…  Urge all of us Lord, to find the right church, in order to gather together as a corporate body of believers, “in order to stir up love and good works” (Hebrews 10:24-25)…  Help us to understand that Christians should only consider marrying Christians; and that this should be our first priority, when we are even remotely thinking about finding a spouse…  I pray Lord, that these words would bring You honor and glory…in Jesus’ most precious name and for His sake…Amen…

Blessings in Christ,  bruce 

P.S. Here is the link to an excellent blog, titled…”Where Should I Go to Chruch?”… 

         http://www.relevantbibleteaching.com/site/cpage.asp?cpage_id=140011534&sec_id=140001239

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1 Response to Gods group thoughts for 4/20/2013 “How to be 100% Right; and Yet Totally Wrong”

  1. Thanks! Very nice! God bless you and have a great day 😃

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